Former White House social secretaries Lea Berman, who worked for George and Laura Bush, and Jeremy Bernard, who worked for Michelle and Barack Obama, have written an entertaining and uniquely practical guide to personal and professional success in modern life. These Washington insiders share what they’ve learned through first person examples of their own glamorous (and sometimes harrowing) moments with celebrities, foreign leaders and that most unpredictable of animals—the American politician.
This book is for you if you feel unsure of yourself in social settings, if you’d like to get along more easily with others, or if you want to break through to a new level of cooperation with your boss and coworkers. They give specific advice for how to exude confidence even when you don’t feel it, ways to establish your reputation as an individual whom people like, trust, and want to help, and lay out the specific social skills still essential to success – despite our increasingly digitized world. Jeremy and Lea prove that social skills are learned behavior that anyone can acquire, and tell the stories of their own unlikely paths to becoming the social arbiters of the White House, while providing tantalizing insights into the character of the first ladies and presidents they served.
Social secretaries plan all kinds of events, from state dinners and the Easter egg roll to Congressional picnics and private lunches. The authors speak from their own experience about how it’s done while dispensing advice on, as the title suggests, treating people well.
Berman and Bernard talk about their time at the White House under presidents George W. Bush and Barack Obama, respectively. The tips they give aren’t groundbreaking (begin with confidence, be consistent, listen first and talk later) but they’re things we should all be reminded of. I learned some new things, too, like good ways to start a thank you note. (Hint: it’s not “Thank you for…”)
What I enjoyed most were the anecdotes about working in the White House. Both authors have a glowing admiration for the presidents and first ladies they served and it shows.There are tales of near disaster, like when Berman who, when an interpreter refused to move to their proper seat, tipped them out of their chair (!). They also talk about how they came into the position, especially interesting for Bernard as he was both the first man and the first openly gay person to be social secretary.
Fitting presidential quotes round things out. I listened to Treating People Well on audio and like that the authors narrate their own stories and experiences. A third narrator covers the introduction and interstitial text.
While I wouldn’t say it’s an authoritative volume about being your best at work nor the best White House memoir, it is an enjoyable combination of the two.